Quotes from Carol Tuttle's REMEMBERING WHOLENESS(2002) 

In our society, we have a strong belief that there are

some days we are not going to feel good and we just have to

suffer through them.

     It is socially unacceptable to claim you feel good all of the

time, or at least you figured out how to. Most people do not

believe you and think you are in denial of all your life's

problems. Others dismiss you as an emotional upper-class

snob who is no longer willing to play the game of emotional

duress.

     Once you've made the decision to take charge of your

life and how you feel, choosing to take accountably for when

you feel bad and changing it to feeling good, you will find

yourself in fewer and fewer conversations with a negative

focus. Most of your relationships change because the people

in your life that you attracted to lick your wounds while you

lick theirs are not always so eager to give up their pity parties

and their victim experience.

     That's okay. This gives you the opportunity to let go and

allow, showing unconditional love for others, and saying to

yourself,  "I guess that person wants more of that experience,

I am here for them when they are ready to change it".

As a society, we have a collective belief that there are certain

life events that will cause us to feel bad. In fact if we felt

good about them, we would be looked down upon as behaving

inappropriately and demonstrating that we are apathetic

or insensive.  Everything is perfect; God loves all of us.

I choose to see this person lovingly and accept that they still

need more of their current experience.

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